Abuse is defined as the use of violence, disrespect, cruelty, hurt, or force against another person. Experiencing abuse in a relationship occurs when someone mistreats their partner in any of these ways. Abuse in a relationship can take many forms, including physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. It might be any or all of them.
Mean words, threats, or shame may be used in these instances. A partner may act jealous or in a domineering manner. Alternatively, physical or sexual violence can be used. These things can begin small and gradually grow.
It’s time to get help if you believe you’re experiencing abuse in your relationship. There are people who can assist you in getting to a safe location and who can assist you in sorting through all of the emotions associated with partner abuse.
Is it possible that I’m in an abusive relationship?
Here are several red flags to look out for. You might be at risk or in an abusive relationship if someone:
- in any way damages you physically: hitting, shoving, shaking, or kicking are all examples of this
- threatens to hurt you or themselves if you leave the relationship
- compels you, or tries to force you, into any form of sexual act you don’t want to do
- seeks to exert control over aspects of your life such as how you dress, who you associate with, and what you say
- often shames or makes you feel unworthy twists the truth to make you feel responsible for their actions
- demands to know where you are at all times
- frequently acts jealous or angry when you want to spend time with your friends
- makes mean or rude comments on social media
- demands or asks for your social media sign-in information
If you’re unsure whether you’re in an abusive relationship, seek advice from a therapist or call our hotline.
Leaving a Relationship Where Abuse is Present
Recognize that you have a right to safety. You are entitled to be treated with dignity. The first step is to realize this.
- Put your trust in someone you know. Tell a parent, trusted adult, health practitioner, or friend about your situation so they can assist you. In this case, many adults are aware of how to assist. A buddy may not be able to get you to safety as quickly as an adult.
- Expert assistance and support are available. Abuse might leave you feeling befuddled, terrified, or fatigued. Find a therapist to assist you in regaining emotional strength. They can assist you in sorting through the various emotions you may be experiencing.
- Call a helpline for assistance. Learn more about how to safely leave these relationships. The counsellors on the hotline can also chat with you about other options that might help you go forward.
How do I process my Emotions?
Learn about the effects of relationship abuse on people. Partner abuse can leave visible scars, such as bruises, sprains, or markings. However, it can also result in unseen emotional pain. Trauma is a deep emotional tension that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Consider how you’ve been affected by relationship abuse. A partner’s abuse can leave you feeling frightened or unsettled. Because of everything you’ve gone through, you may feel furious, unhappy, nervous, or depressed. It’s typical to experience a range of emotions after being abused. Even when the abuse has stopped, the underlying tension can persist. Take note of how things have gone for you.
Seek the assistance of a trauma therapist. There is counselling available to assist people in dealing with their deep stress. It’s known as trauma therapy. Counsellors and therapists use it as a sort of talk therapy. It aids those who have experienced trauma, such as abuse. Find a therapist with whom you can collaborate.
Acquire coping skills and share your story. Trauma treatment can provide you with a sense of safety and support. You can acquire coping techniques and receive assistance in treatment. This allows you to confront painful memories, express your experience, and heal. Find the right words to express your feelings about what you’ve been through.
If you require immediate help
If you’ve been hurt physically, get medical attention or dial 911.
Helplines can provide information on how to safely leave an abusive relationship – Call 1-833-327-MENS (6367)
There is Hope
Make strides toward bettering your relationships. The emotional pain of partner violence might be lessened by sharing your story with a trauma therapist. It can also assist you in discovering your inner power and moving toward good relationships that contribute to your overall well-being.